Being overweight and online dating
I took control of my dating fate, and took steps towards having the experiences I actually wanted. I can’t fully articulate when I was the one doing the digging around for interesting people, proposing dates and meeting babes. It’s something many single people wonder, myself included.Nearly three years ago, I decided I didn’t want to have monogamous relationships anymore, for the simple reason that they didn’t suit me.This means, though, that even though I spent two and a half of the past three years in a relationship, I was still dating the whole time.Since my first tip is ‘be the boss’, and I hate doing a post without a picture, please enjoy this photo of a young Bruce Springsteen.You don’t need to be the Boss, though, just be your own boss. For the first year and a half-ish that I was on Ok Cupid, I had loads of dates, but 99% of the time, I didn’t fancy the people I was meeting. Because I was letting my fat fears rule my choices, and going, primarily, for the ‘sort of people’ I thought would want to date me.
Dear Geoff, Glad to hear you found someone special, and even happier that you spoke up.
My guy friends (also educated, attractive) complain that they get no responses and female acquaintences tell me that they get so many emails, etc, that they don’t know where to start-and often do nothing.
They don’t have time to “date around” several times a week.(actually neither would I). Women, being more vulnerable than men, are more hesitant to date online, so you get a situation where there’s a lot more men than women.
I did meet my girlfriend online, but after a year of painful struggle, meaning hardly any dates despite being educated, employed, and reasonably attractive.
Friends of both genders tell that their experiences have been hard in different ways.
But, as a single woman trying everything I can to increase my chances of finding The One, I was interested to see how much of an issue size is for single men.